Hello Beautiful People….many of you have reached out to me during this time of devastation and despair…...I’ve delayed my response because I too am lost, hurt, and in the stages of grieving and really could not find any words of encouragement to share. On this third day of our new reality, as I sit on my flight back to Chicago from DC, I’m finally able to offer some words that I hope you find comforting……...my words are my truth, not right or wrong, simply my truth…...in order to process my emotions and began to heal I’ve decided to limit my social media time taking a much needed break from the constant words, opinions and feedback from others, I must attend to my wellbeing, love, career and business. Truth is my spirit has been calling for a social media break since the first debate, yet I chose to continuously ignore those calls, assuring myself with a misleading belief that I could handle it all with daily yoga, meditation and writing…...but after several restless nights of sleep and awakening Wednesday morning to learn the new leader of our free world was a misogynist, racist bully, full of hate and divide....in that moment I heard the call loud and clear, I needed to fall way back and tend to myself, thinking about it was no longer an option. It was more of an emergency call to honor my inner thoughts, feelings and emotions, to not allow another to bring me to a place where my words become sharp, leaving wounds so deep that even with the passage of time heart felt scars would remain. I immediately identified the source of my hurt, you see it's not that he won, but the reality that the majority of humans I share this space on earth with believed he was the best person for the job……...44% of white women and 53%, of white men stood behind his hate filled messages of women being nothing more than sexual objects (“if you meet his beauty standards”) our bodies are open to sexual abuse by any man at any time……minorities should be treated like common criminals and immigrants should be removed from the great USA (insert sarcasm), and walls shall be built to assure no return, and if you’re not a hetrosexual white male you deserve less rights and who you love should be under scrutiny. This majority supports his message of violence and that our soldiers, veterans and people with disabilities deserve nothing more than to be demeaned and ridiculed……...this reality has cut me to the core, because I know these people, they are my neighbors, colleagues and the most hurtful of all I thought many were life acquaintances and some were friends.
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Instead of filling social media with my personal shock, hurt and disgust, increasing my stress level and putting my health and wellbeing at risk for illness and disease, I’ve chosen to take several steps back and take care of me. I recommend you take a few steps back, identify your innermost thoughts and feelings allow yourself to GRIEVE, and do it without the input of others….cry, be angry, acknowledge your fears, guilt
and feelings of hopelessness that resides deep within, even bargain out a solution. Most important grieve at your own pace, allow embrace the reality that these people who you must know, and love selected him to lead our country......then set your personal stage for forgiveness. I know this may prove to be a challenge, but remember moving forward is not always easy, this storm of uncertainty, divide and hate will pass, the sun will rise and shine again, and I do believe we will come out a better nation. But for now we each must take sometime alone, time to heal and strengthen our mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing.
I landed in DC early Wednesday, my flight was eerily quiet, once on the plane and all buckled up I put in my headphones attached to no music, I pulled my hoodie over my head sunglasses on my face and let the tears fall freely from my red stained eyes. Knowing I needed to let them flow as I was attending a professional dinner that evening and presenting at a conference in the day’s to follow. Once I checked into my hotel I took time to just sit and be still, then I slowly unpacked my luggage…...thirty minutes later I took the mile long walk to the National Museum of African American History, I reserved my tickets back in September, I don't take the timing of this lightly, walking through the museum so many emotions came to the surface, hurt, pain, but most important PRIDE, the pride of being an African American Woman, the pride of being able to pull back and take care of myself, and the pride of knowing we had eight years of a great leader and amazing first family who showed us what the power of unity can do. As I left the museum, it began to rain, as the rain picked up my tears dried up…...I really felt as though I was being cleansed from the universe, God’s way of letting me know everything's gonna be alright. I removed my rain cap and received the cleansing without resistance and as I reached the hotel the rain stopped and the sun came out…...I have not cried since, I’ve gone from feeling powerless to powerful and full of Pride.
Please Beautiful Loves take care of yourselves, answer the call of your needs, fly solo for a bit, heal, so you’re prepared for the next stages of this journey, regain your strength and beliefs, get involved in your community and if you ever witness injustice speak up, letting the offender's know with confidence and power that we will not tolerate hate and divide! WE are better than his agenda but WE must heal ourselves so WE as citizens of US can move forward together to spread love, peace, and acceptance of all….When he builds a wall, and attempts to instill fear WE tear it down letting him know we’re Fearless!
Mad Love to each of you….Peace,
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